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Can you teach submission?

February 11, 2017

One of the reasons I love twitter is the ability to have conversation with people around the world and get inspired by what others are experiencing and talking about. So when Domina Dynasty posed this question on twitter, I was intrigued… Can you teach someone to be submissive? It’s a really interesting question and like…

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What does it mean if you desire humiliation play?

December 25, 2016

“But I raised you to be a nice girl…” My mother has said this a few times during conversations about the last 16 years of a career in kink. I’ve been lucky to be able to be open with her and while I definitely don’t go into specifics, she knows that humiliation play has been…

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Top 3 Things You Need to Know About Healthy Humiliation Play

November 30, 2016

I’ve been teaching classes about erotic humiliation play since 2004 and have spoken with thousands of kinksters and lovers of psychological torment. Throughout that time, even with the mainstreaming of other BDSM activities, I’ve seen that humiliation play continues to be misunderstood even by those who desire it. So from my abundant experience, here are…

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Erotic Degradation at a Distance

November 18, 2016

Long distance relationships are more common than ever in the internet age and that’s particularly true in the kink community where our relationship and sexual needs are, well, very particular. Kinksters meet online or at events where people have traveled from all over the country (and sometimes the world) to play and watch and moan…

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#HumiliationDay Wrap Up!

November 1, 2016

Did it seem like you’d never heard of “National Erotic Humiliation Day” and then suddenly saw my twitter timeline flooded with tweets about celebrating it? Well, that’s exactly what happened! Late in the evening on October 22nd, I was thinking about Halloween and the kind of explorations it inspires. For most people it’s rare to…

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Announcing the Enough To Make You Blush: Workbook!

October 28, 2016

Originally I created this workbook specifically for my 8-hour intensive workshop but it’s been so popular I’ve decided to make it available on it’s own (or with my book.) “It really helped me dissect and understand the concepts and allowed me to explore myself and really think deeply before I even practice in person.” –…

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Celebrate the First Annual ‘National Erotic Humiliation Day’!

October 22, 2016

As the author of the first book dedicated to the joys of erotic humiliation, I’ve decided to launch a day of celebration for this oft-misunderstood fetish. This will be a day to share your experiences, post fun photos, meet fellow humiliation enthusiasts online and learn more about the fabulously fun kink for erotic humiliation! Annually…

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Does ‘topping from the bottom’ exist?

October 11, 2016

‘Topping from the bottom,’ is one of the first things I remember hearing about when I entered the kink scene nearly two decades ago. From both dominants and submissives the view was the same….’topping from the bottom’ is abhorrent. All submissives should avoid it like the plague and all dominants should watch like a hawk,…

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How to Introduce Humiliation into Your Play

June 17, 2016

After a recent class in San Jose, CA one of the attendees messaged me with the question… Do you have any suggestions about where to start as a top? Like, did you start by peeing on people, or having them worship your feet, or making them blow into a pinwheel for an hour..?” The pinwheel…

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New!! Humiliation Truth or Dare Game – available now!

May 14, 2016

Enough To Make You Blush: Truth or Dare The deck includes: 13 Dominant Truths 13 Dominant Dares 13 Submissive Truths 13 Submissive Dares 1 Wordbank Card 3 Instruction Card   The poker-deck sized cards are printed on durable white card stock.   The game can be played with 2 to 40 people & can make…

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