Jun 092019


To this day, financial fetish and domination is one of the most misunderstood power play experiences. Like any expression of power, it has the potential for abuse and has gotten a rather bad rap because of the exploitation possibilities.

However, using money within a healthy D/s relationship (whether lifestyle or professional) can be an exciting and edgy way to open up a whole new realm of submission and dominance. This class will give you concrete guidelines to enjoying this complex and sexy kinky activity.

This class focuses on concepts rather than specific tools because of the constantly changing landscape of platforms. It’s appropriate for dominants, submissives, and switches.

In this online class you’ll learn:

  • The psychology behind the desire for financial domination
  • Different styles and types of financial domination
  • How to adapt financial domination play to individual needs and desires
  • The difference between exploring financial domination in lifestyle and professional relationships
  • The stereotypes and myths that are commonly associated with this type of play
  • How to incorporate unrealistic fantasies (such as bankruptcy and blackmail) into ethical play
  • Specific suggestions for ways to play with financial domination

Register for yourself or someone else here! 

$69 per person

Includes a 2-hour live class with Q&A, a recording, and a 22-page printable workbook


So, when’s the workshop?

Saturday, July 13th

10am to 12pm PT (1pm to 3pm ET)


Once you’ve completed your registration, here’s what will happen:

  1. You’ll receive a welcome note from Kali.
  2. On Friday, July 12th, you’ll receive the link to attend the webinar along with a PDF workbook that you can download and print out.
  3. On Saturday, July 13th, you’ll log on and get ready for some fantastic kinky learning!



Who is this class for?

This class is for anyone that wants to play with money or gifts as a consensual kink exchange. I will be sharing concepts and ideas that are applicable to lifestyle and/or professional players.

Can I attend if I am a submissive?

Absolutely. I speak primarily from my experience as a dominant, but the concepts and questions posed in this class will be helpful no matter what your kink interests are. I also include suggestions if you’re not interested in power dynamics.

Can I attend if I don’t have a partner?

Absolutely. Understanding your own needs is the best gift you can give yourself and any future play partners. You’ll be all the more prepared when someone comes into your life.

Will the webinar be recorded?

Yes, you’ll receive a link to download the class once the live class is over. This means you have access to the class forever and can watch it later even if you can’t attend live.

Will you offer this again?

It’s possible, but not likely! Sign up for my mailing list to be told when the next course happens.

Will this be in-person or online?

Completely online and accessible from anywhere in the U.S. or internationally (that has a reliable internet connection).

Where will we be meeting online for this workshop?

We’ll be using Crowdcast.com; there’s nothing to install and the webinar can be joined from your browser. All attendees will receive the webinar link ahead of time.

Can I be anonymous in this workshop?

Yes, absolutely. You get to choose what name you use when you join the webinars, and you’re not on camera at anytime. You’re welcome to simply listen to the workshop as you would at a live event, or engage in the forum with comments and questions.


Give me two hours and I’ll give you a deeper understanding of your own kinky interests.

Register for yourself or someone else here! 

May 312019

Can you believe I’ve never brought my kinky goodness to Portland, Oregon? Well, neither could I so I whipped up a trip to remedy that little oversight!

Three straight evenings of my favorite workshops at a couple of the finest sex education establishments in PDX. Thanks so much to SubRosa and SheBop for hosting me.

There’s a high likelyhood that these classes will sell out, so don’t wait until the minute and miss out. Click on the links and reserve your seat today :)

August 20, 2019 – Happy Healthy Humiliation at SubRosa

7pm to 9pm

Humiliation is such a complex and varied fetish that many lifestyle and professional players hesitate to delve very deeply into the many fun options for embarrassing, degrading or humiliating their submissive. After attending this workshop however, both light and heavy players will be equipped with exciting new ideas to use and expand upon. Everything from dehumanization, to chastity training, to verbal humiliation and water-sports will be discussed, as well as How to Humiliate Happily- the ways to make sure that everyone is getting what they need from the experience.

Purchase your tickets here



August 21, 2019 – Authentic Kink at SheBop

7:30pm to 9:30pm

Kinksters often have to depend on erotica and porn to learn what kink looks and feels like, but unfortunately that can create a lot of myths, misunderstandings and accidental mistakes. BDSM is so focused on activity, but just because you’re going through the motions doesn’t mean you’ll have a happy, healthy experience. It can take years (and plenty of bad scenes) to help you learn exactly what you enjoy and why. But it doesn’t have to if you spend time reflecting on your needs and limits ahead of time.

In this class Princess Kali will use storytelling and engaging discussion teach you how to have the most authentic and fulfilling kink experience possible. 

Purchase your tickets here


August 22, 2019 – How to Create & Maintain a Service Relationship at SubRosa

7pm to 9pm

The term “service” often conjures images of household drudgery. But there are many ways someone can be “of service” beyond household tasks, including fetish service, sexual service, and so much more.

For some kinksters, there’s nothing like scrubbing away at the floor or toilet while a stern dominant looks on in silent judgment, or ignores them from the next room.  But if you think unwashed dishes and dirty laundry are the only options, this class will expand your service horizons no matter which side of the dynamic you’re on.

Many tops and dominants dream about having a well-behaved service submissive to call their very own. But finding one pre-trained can be rough and training away bad behaviors can be even rougher! Thankfully, there is a solution to make the process smoother for both sides.

Join Princess Kali as she shares tips and techniques for anyone in a service based relationship (or anyone who wants to be!)

Purchase your tickets here

Sep 092018

It’s almost time to celebrate the 3rd annual National Erotic Humiliation Day, and I hope you’ll join me in all the kinky fun!

It’s time to get ready to celebrate your favorite pervy holiday of the year, a time when we can let all of the deliciously dirty desires out in full form, and share them with the world to honor a deeply mis-understood fetish, for psychological torment and teasing.

The term “erotic humiliation” covers a really broad spectrum of interests of levels of play (you can learn more about it in my book, Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation) and even in the kinky world, people often mistake it for “being mean” which isn’t the case at all. Consensual humiliation play can take many forms and doesn’t always have to be of the hardcore degradation variety (though that’s fun for those who enjoy it!) and this holiday is meant to inspire and connect those who want to explore this type of kink adventure.

Make sure you use the hashtag #HumiliationDay on Twitter & Instagram – where I’ll be sharing tips & photos all day plus signal boosting your posts – follow me @ThePrincessKali (on twitter) and @ThePrincessKali (on instagram) to see all the kinky, humiliating goodness! If you post on Fetlife, friend me here and send me a link (or post it in the comment section below!)

Ways YOU can celebrate:

  • Post your own photos on twitter, instagram, Fetlife and tumbler (see below for suggestions)
  • Confess your humiliation themed fantasies & share your experiences – dominants AND submissives, I’m looking at you!
  • Host a humiliation themed play party! Do you have a local dungeon or group of kinky friends from your favorite munch? Invite them over to play Humiliation Truth or Dare (or the recently released Sissy Edition Truth or Dare) and enjoy some mutual exhibitionism & voyeurism as you watch each others scenes.
  • Do you have a blog? Write a post about a humiliation themed topic (see below for suggestions!) and let me know so I can share in a blog round-up post here on my site (post in the comments too).
  • Buy my book ‘Enough To Make You Blush’ this week to read & get ideas (yes, this is a shameless plug!) You can get it on Kindle for immediate download, or order it from me for an autographed copy. The book also makes a great gift!

Humiliation Themes for photos, confessions and blog posts:

  •      Verbal Humiliation and Degradation
  •      Foot Fetish
  •      Objectification
  •      Being Turned into Furniture
  •      Dehumanization
  •      Sex & Masturbation
  •      Chastity & Orgasm Control
  •      Messy Food Play
  •      Sissification
  •      Nudity
  •      Bodily Functions
  •      Domestic Service & Cleaning
  •      Punishment & Protocol
  •      Playing in Public
  •      Financial Domination

Interested in humiliation play? Check out the Enough To Make You Blush store where you’ll find the items mentioned above & other kinky goodies too!

May 112018

I remember the very first DomCon at the Beverly Garland hotel nestled in Hollywood. I don’t remember how I first heard about DomCon but I do remember how excited I was there. I was 23 years old and had only recently discovered the BDSM world and in my usual way through myself into it and jumped in with both feet. DomCon seemed like it was going to be a paradise of dominant women and that’s exactly what I found.

The first year the hotel had booked us in with both a high school marching band and a church choir. So it was an interesting mix, to say the least!

I remember being at the meet and greet with leather and latex clad dominants all kinds and styles and hearing the church choir singing hymns in the conference room across the way. I remember the freedom of walking around the hotel grounds with a submissive on my leash and the exhilaration of meeting other powerful women who were like me and yet so unlike me.

The camaraderie of dominant women FemDomme, ProDomme women especially has grown over these years that I have had the pleasure of being involved in this community and industry. DomCon is a HUGE part of that.

What Mistress Cyan created was and is the only space for professionally dominant women. And as the event has grown professional dominants of all stripes and lifestyle dominants too have joined the conference. It’s a place where professionals can go and be proud to advertise their service s  and interests because lifestyle conferences are so often unwelcome even though many many many pros are lifestyle in their private lives as well.

Over the years I’m proud to have been involved in DomCon in many ways; as a presenter, as an attendee, as a vendor, and as a board member for a short time. 

Every year that I’m able to make it I feel that same sense of exhilaration, in fact maybe more. Because every year I return I have the opportunity to reconnect with women that I’ve met and built friendships with. I have the opportunity to learn and connect with and from and with other dominants and new dominant in the industry. I feel at home at DomCon in a place where big personalities and quiet power each command their own type of respect.

We are a world of intense, intelligent, creative, and brilliant women and I’m proud to have been a ProDomme and to still have a place in this world even though I’m long retired. In my heart, mind, and actions I will be a dominant woman my entire life.

Since retiring six years ago I have found it very hard to walk away from the ProDomme community. Not that I ever really wanted to. I will be forever grateful for the level of interestingness and curiosity and utterly unique experiences I have had because of this career path. There is a special part of that that is directly because of the women that I know and adore.

Even if we don’t get to see each other very often, even if we fall out of touch DomCon is that reconnection place, it as a place to come and spend time with with people that you care about people that are like you and people that share your interests as well as people that are utterly and completely from a different perspective and path. Through DomCon, Cyan gives us space for this utter collision of brilliance and creativity and perversion!

Now, with attacks on sexual freedom and against sex workers specifically I am redrawn to this world. The last few years I have been slowly working on spreading my Bitch Stigma message as well as taking my speaking skills into more mainstream space without betraying my history.

While I continue to work towards those goals, this is a time when solidarity is key.

So I am thrilled to be going back to DomCon this year to be standing in solidarity with my with my former colleagues who are still fighting this fight as active sex workers and I am absolutely thrilled to lend support and strength and applause to not only Mistress Cyan but also the entire DomCon Board who continues to produce this vital event year after year.

Apr 252018

This page will be edited as I add new appearances, each link will take you to a registration page or somewhere with more information about the event. If you’d like me to teach for your organization or event please email me directly kali @ enoughtomakeyoublush.com


C.O.P.E. By Adventures in Sexuality – July 27th & 28th in Central Ohio – Classes TBD


Dark Odyssey Summer Camp – August 28th through September 3rd in Baltimore, MD area – Classes TBD


Dark Odyssey Surrender – November 9th through 11th in San Francisco, CA – Authentic Kink

Feb 262018

Oh yes, I so LOVE talking about psychological torment so podcasts are one of my favorite things! I’ve been talking to some more super smart sex geeks and here are the results – 3 new podcast interviews (all recorded at the end of 2017) talking about all my favorite kinky topics.

Take a listen!


Off the Cuffs is a ” kink and BDSM podcast, for those in the lifestyle and those who are curious” with the two hosts, Dick and max who talk about their own kink journeys.

Click here to listen






 Bex and Kate are two of my favorite podcasting kinksters who bring a lot of transparency and joy to their kink & sex adventures.



Click here to listen in





Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg are the hosts of the American Sex Podcast (you might recognize them from the Showtime show “Sex With Sunny Megatron) that a fun, down-to-earth vibe to their sex and kink educational pursuits.

Click here to listen

Jan 312018

I recently received this email and thought it would make a great blog post to share my thoughts with everyone!

Dear Princess Kali,

I have read a lot about you and have seen many of your videos and I really appreciate what you bring to the kink community. Even though I have never heard you discuss cuckolding or polyamory, I thought you would be the best person to bring this dilemma to.

Over the past few years I have successfully trained my husband to be my service submissive. We have incorporated Domination/submission into almost all aspects of our lives. Over the past 3 months or so, [my husband] and I have been exploring cuckolding (I assume you know what that is), which has brought more long term chastity for [my husband] and more men for me.

After dating and exploring what is out there, I have found one lover who I would like to stick with. [My lover] like me, is very Dominant. I think it would fun (and hot!) to encourage him to establish his Dominance over [my husband]. I think it would bring about a new level of humiliation. I always like to find new ways to push [my husbands] boundaries. I realize that this will probably require allowing [my lover] to disciple [my husband]. What I want to ask is, how do you recommend I start? I realize it might be a bit difficult to bring in a second Dominant.

Thanks in advance!


My response….

Bringing a third partner into any established relationship is bound to have some bumps in the path. As long as both partners are genuinely interested then it can add whole new experiences to your sex life. Cuckolding is pretty popular, although it’s not always talked about. I don’t do cuckolding play personally, but have helped couples enjoy it in their relationship.

First even though there is an obvious power exchange in your committed relationship, I believe that a non-power based conversation needs to take place before moving forward. The biggest fun-stopper in a cuckolding dynamic is for the cuckold to feel genuinely anxious or afraid of losing their cuckoldress (aka their female partner).

Insecurity does NOT support a healthy sex life, no matter how many people are involved.

So taking the power structure out of play for at least a single conversation allows for you both to express your desires & fears in a non-sex focused way. It’s also REALLY helpful to have at least a couple more of those conversations after the new experiences have started. You can keep the power dynamic with the conversation if you’re more comfortable doing so, but there needs to be space for your husband to openly express any fears or concerns, and then you can figure out what to do about it.

Once that’s done and everyone is officially on board, it’s time to get to the sexy stuff! I don’t know how involved your husband is with your lover in terms of face to face time, but if that hasn’t happened yet start with verbal descriptions and dirty talk. Tell your husband every sexy thing you plan on doing to him and all the sexy (and humiliating) things your lover is going to do to him. Sharing fantasies is a way many couples introduce even the idea of cuckolding into their relationship, even if they don’t use that particular word. Remember that what is an incredible turn on in fantasy can be problematic when brought to life, sometimes surprisingly so.

Since you’ve already been exploring cuckolding and chastity in the last few months, I’ll guess that you’ve done a lot of the dirty talk and fantasy exploration already. So now it’s about introducing your husband to submitting to your lover.

I’m a big believer in starting slow, it’s easy to build up the intensity but it’s hard to come back from a boundary that wasn’t really ready to be pushed.

You can start by having your husband kiss your lovers shoes when your lover comes to pick you up for a date. It’s also fun to give your lover a more dominant title that your husband must use to address him. Something as simple as “Sir” is always nice, or you can get creative with something along the lines of “Mr. Well-Endowed” or “Real Man” or a title that’s relevant and specific to your own relationship and fantasies. A bit of groveling & respectful appreciation that your lover is satisfying you when your husband can’t is also a soft intro to a D/s dynamic for them.

Physical touch is something that should also be introduced once the small acts of submission have become more comfortable. Perhaps when your husband is kissing your lovers shoes/feet, after he’s done your lover can rest his foot on the back of your husbands head. Not to crush it down, but so your husband can feel its weight and start to feel the excitement of being “under” your lover.

Adding the humiliation bit can take a variety of forms. You can have your husband get locked in his chastity cage in front of your lover, sort of like a ritual that constantly re-establishes his submission to your pleasure and as an extension of your pleasure, your lover. Your lover can call your husband while you’re out on a date or enjoying some hot sex and give your husband instructions about what to do for you once you get home.

Having your husband help you prepare for you date is of course a classic, and you might already be doing that. If you aren’t, start!

Get your husband into that chastity cage and then have him watch you try on sexy lingerie and outfits that you’ll be wearing for your lover, or your husband can be the ‘fluffer’ and give you a couple of orgasms orally before you head out, all the while with you telling him how your “stud” is going to really satisfy you. It can also be fun to call your husband while you’re having sex with your lover and just leave the phone on next to wherever you’re fucking, so your husband can hear all the sounds. This can also be a good time to do verbal with all three of you, having your lover, while fucking you, dirty talk (so your husband can hear it over the phone) about what a ‘pansy’ or ‘loser’ (or whatever words you use in your cuckolding experience) your husband is and how he’s fucking you like you deserve to get fucked.

I don’t recommend allowing your lover to just jump into doing whatever he wants to your husband.

You are the dominant in your relationship with your husband and you do have a responsibility to keep him ultimately safe. Make sure your lover knows any hard boundaries both with physical actions and verbal play.

Take it in steps, depending on what your ultimate goals are. Fantasy & verbal exploration. ‘Small’ acts of submission by your husband to your lover. Introducing dominant touch by your lover to your husband. Letting your husbands submission to your lover grow authentically, like I’m sure it did with you, sets you all up for a more positive experience.

This article was originally posted on CoachingByKali.com

Jan 302018

As a follow up to the original Humiliation Truth or Dare game, I’m delighted to announce the very first ‘expansion deck’ – the Sissy Edition!

This frilly, flouncy game will bring spontaneous fun to your sissy play. You can use it in a private one-on-one session or with a group at a sissy party!

The deck will include:

    • 13 Dominant Truths
    • 13 Dominant Dares
    • 13 Sissy Truths
    • 13 Sissy Dares
    • 2 Instruction Cards

The cards are printed on durable white card stock and are the size of an average poker card deck.

The game can be played with 2 to 40 people & can make a fun party game, or as playful inspiration for a private session.

On sale for a limited time $16 + shipping

(usually $20)


*NO International Shipping, only in Continental US

*Shipping takes 5-12 days

Jan 252018

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Oct 152017

The Full Enough To Make You Blush Package includes:

  • Autographed Paperback book
  • Verbal Humiliation deck
  • Truth/Dare deck
  • Workbook
  • 1 month membership to KinkAcademy.com
  • Bonus! Service Bell (while supplies last!)

Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation

Erotic humiliation goes far beyond the “Lick my boots!” stereotype. Princess Kali, a famous former Dominatrix and world-renowned Humiliatrix, throws open the dungeon doors to explore the complex desires that fuel this kind of psychological play for both dominants and submissives. Using both personal experience and extensive interviews she shares advice and detailed ideas for a broad range of embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading ways to enjoy consensual kinky fun. Also covered are important concepts such as communication, negotiation, consent, triggers, aftercare, and so much

Enough to Make You Blush: Workbook

Spiral bound and printed on thick, silky paper with a full color cover this workbook includes…

  • More than 100 Stimulating Questions
  • Erotic Humiliation Activity List – 5 pages
  • Negotiation Worksheet
  • Titles & Names Suggestions
  • Verbal Humiliation Vocabulary Suggestions
  • Space to write out fantasies, erotica & plans for future scenes
  • plus more!

Order the full package & receive both decks in a plastic double box!

Verbal Humiliation Scene Starters Deck

Over 200 phrases in more than 20 categories, giving you a huge (and fun) resource to inspire your verbal humiliation play. It’s a Pocket Pervert Thesaurus!

The poker-deck sized cards are bright, white, and glossy.

Humiliation Truth or Dare Game

  • 13 Dominant Truths
  • 13 Dominant Dares
  • 13 Submissive Truths
  • 13 Submissive Dares
  • 1 Wordbank Card
  • 3 Instruction Card

The cards are printed on durable white card stock the size of a standard deck of poker cards.

The game can be played with 2 to 40 people & can make a fun party game, or as playful inspiration for a private scene.

1-Month Membership to KinkAcademy.com

Kink Academy is a comprehensive library of sex-ed videos for adventurous, consenting adults. Whether you’re new to kink or an experienced player, there’s something for everyone to learn on Kink Academy. With over 2,000 sex-ed videos and over 160 sexuality educators, the Kink Academy Team works with sex educators from around the world to present the most diverse and experienced voices possible for your ongoing sexual education. The Web’s leading resource for adult sexuality education in BDSM, polyamory, fetish, kink, swinging, and other sexual expressions that are commonly overlooked even in sex-positive educational materials.

Order it today for only $80 + shipping!


*shipping takes 5-12 business days
*NO International Shipping, only in Continental US