Oct 152017

The Full Enough To Make You Blush Package includes:

  • Autographed Paperback book
  • Verbal Humiliation deck
  • Truth/Dare deck
  • Workbook
  • 1 month membership to KinkAcademy.com
  • Bonus! Service Bell (while supplies last!)

Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation

Erotic humiliation goes far beyond the “Lick my boots!” stereotype. Princess Kali, a famous former Dominatrix and world-renowned Humiliatrix, throws open the dungeon doors to explore the complex desires that fuel this kind of psychological play for both dominants and submissives. Using both personal experience and extensive interviews she shares advice and detailed ideas for a broad range of embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading ways to enjoy consensual kinky fun. Also covered are important concepts such as communication, negotiation, consent, triggers, aftercare, and so much

Enough to Make You Blush: Workbook

Spiral bound and printed on thick, silky paper with a full color cover this workbook includes…

  • More than 100 Stimulating Questions
  • Erotic Humiliation Activity List – 5 pages
  • Negotiation Worksheet
  • Titles & Names Suggestions
  • Verbal Humiliation Vocabulary Suggestions
  • Space to write out fantasies, erotica & plans for future scenes
  • plus more!

Order the full package & receive both decks in a plastic double box!

Verbal Humiliation Scene Starters Deck

Over 200 phrases in more than 20 categories, giving you a huge (and fun) resource to inspire your verbal humiliation play. It’s a Pocket Pervert Thesaurus!

The poker-deck sized cards are bright, white, and glossy.

Humiliation Truth or Dare Game

  • 13 Dominant Truths
  • 13 Dominant Dares
  • 13 Submissive Truths
  • 13 Submissive Dares
  • 1 Wordbank Card
  • 3 Instruction Card

The cards are printed on durable white card stock the size of a standard deck of poker cards.

The game can be played with 2 to 40 people & can make a fun party game, or as playful inspiration for a private scene.

1-Month Membership to KinkAcademy.com

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Feb 242016

board-1106649_1280Words can be a powerful tool in kinky scenes, but are often underused. It’s easy to find places to learn about flogging or spanking or bondage, but not so easy to find ways to learn about incorporating verbal into scenes.

When I play, I’m incredible verbal. I’ve found words to be the most versatile way to get into my play-partners head.

During my classes the obstacles that are often cited are along these lines

  • “I don’t know what to say.”
  • “It feels stupid, like I’m in a bad porno.”
  • “The words I use get repetitive. There’s only so many times I can call someone a slut.”

These are all understandable concerns, but there is a solution to all of them!

Like with all kinky activities, practice will help you get comfortable. The words we use in erotic humiliation play are rarely words that we’ve been *taught* how to use. In fact most of them are words we’ve been told NOT to use for most of our lives! So just getting used to saying them out loud, and saying them with enthusiasm (or disdain, or affection, or any number of other tone choices) only comes with repetition. So let’s take these concerns one by one –

“I don’t know what to say.” – A suggestion I often give, is that if you’re struggling to know what to say, start with describing what you’re doing and how you feel about it. Think of yourself like a kinky sports commentator.

For example – “I’m going to start playing with your nipples now. I like to use my fingers to make them hard & tease those slut-buttons into standing up tall for me. I’m going to tease those nipples until I see you breathing heavy…”

“It feels stupid, like I’m in a bad porno.” – Remember, you’re not trying to win an Academy Award! Sexual role-play and verbal humiliation is meant to be fun & playful, so don’t take yourself too seriously.

I’ve found it feels much less “stupid” to just commit to the scene and go for it! Let the words flow and don’t worry about whether you’re doing it “right.”

“The words I use get repetitive.” – You don’t have to be a walking perverted-thesaurus! Using the same words can actually be a psychological short-cut to kinky headspace. Of course it’s fun to get creative and come up with fresh, new things to call our submissive (or be called by our dominants), but don’t underestimate the power of repetition.

There are lots of ways to expand your verbal humiliation repertoire (including my popular Creative Humiliation Scene Starters™ deck!) but if you and your partner have favorites, you don’t have to feel like you’re missing out. Use the words that get your arousal-engine revving and find ways to incorporate other verbal options when you’re feeling inspired.

In my big survey last year, a few things were pretty clear, and can help you if you keep them in mind.

  • Body Image and Intelligence are the least popular things to incorporate into verbal humiliation.
  • Like all erotic humiliation, words are extremely personal. Find out what works for each partner.
  • “Worthless” is another concept not often appreciated. Erotic slut-shaming is much more popular.

I did a special survey to find out which words people like to use most, here’s the results (252 People responded)

survey results

Dec 232015

Have you ever been in the middle of a scene with your partner groveling at your feet, and all you could muster is a measly… “yeah, you slut…” as your voice trailed off in uncertainty?

Or maybe you have a list of filthy favorites, embarrassing or degrading words that make your submissive shiver, but you’d like to expand your word play options.

Well here’s a snazzy option, just for you! It’s a Pocket Pervert Thesaurus!

Introducing the newly updated & redesigned “Creative Humiliation Scene Starter™ Deck”


These were available many years ago, but have been out of stock for quite awhile. In honor of the recent release of my book, I decided to update the phrases & word-banks and give the whole deck a redesign. We used a durable cardstock with a bright back ground so you can read them even in low-light dungeons and bedrooms.

There are over 200 phrases in more than 20 categories, giving you an extensive (and fun) resource to inspire your verbal humiliation play.

There are multiple ways to use the Scene Starters™ Deck:

  1. The dominant can read them out during a session, flipping through to find ones that are inspiring or particularly appropriate for the current moment.
  2. The submissive can be instructed to choose a few phrases (or whole cards) to use during the scene as a way to give the dominant insight into their mindset.
  3. The deck makes a great negotiation tool on either side to share examples or words that are desired or are on the no-go list.

Categories include: teasing, chastity, cuckolding, degradation, dehumanization, domestic, foot fetish, financial fetish, inferiority, intelligence, bodily functions, body insults, masturbation, nudity, objectification, piss play, sex, sissfication and smoke fetish.

The deck is the size of standard poker cards printed on glossy, bright white paper.

Only $20.00 (+shipping)

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  • Wondering how you might use these cards? One customer shares the way they play in this Fetlife post (you must have a Fetlife account to read it).
Dec 132015

whisper in ear 1 smallWords are one of the most powerful tools we have in kinky play. Engaging the mind is such an important part of arousal, but often we have little experience speaking up about our desires. The act of using words to engage your playmate’s brain is so efficient and effective, but people can be scared off because the most effective words — especially in humiliation play — are not words we use very often.

I’ve seen many dominants stay utterly silent during scenes, not necessarily as a chosen tool, but because they were nervous about “not doing it right.”

There are a variety of ways you can incorporate verbal into your humiliation scenes, in fact it has it’s own chapter in Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation.

Here are my top three suggestions

  1. Practice! – Get comfortable with the words so they roll easily from your tongue during scenes. If you haven’t had the mouth of a sailor for most your life, you might naturally hesitate before using degrading phrases, even if its consensual. So whenever you’re alone, perhaps in the shower or your car, try them out.
  2. Expand your vocabulary! – I’m a fan of ritualizing our kink experiences, so using the same words over and over can still be incredibly hot. But you can also expand your vocabulary and come up with alternate words than the usual suspects. Try replacing slut with skank, or replacing worm with cockroach. Become a walking perverted thesaurus!*
  3. Play with tone of voice! – Words are powerful, and consciously choosing your tone of voice amplifies their effect even more. Even the message of “I love you” can change dramatically when said with a tone of cruelty & distance before a dominant does some wickedly kinky thing to their submissive. See how the experience of your favorite words changes when said with differing energies such as affectionate mocking or disdain.

*If you’re looking for a way to expand your vocabulary, there are definitely options! Check out my Creative Humiliation Scene Starters™ Deck with over 200 phrases. The Creative Humiliation Scene Starters™ Deck offers a fun and clever way to innovate your verbal humiliation toolbox.

There are also a few books I recommend. My top picks are:

  • Exhibitionism for the Shy by Carol Queen
  • Naughty Words for Nice Writers by Cara Bristol
  • The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Turn Your Fantasies into Reality by Violet Blue