Jul 182019

Imagine that sweet feeling of anticipation before you’re headed out on vacation, or when you’re waiting in line for your favorite food. That tension of wanting the good stuff to hurry up and happen all the while daydreaming about how it is going to feel when it finally does. 

Now pair that feeling with orgasms. 

Do you start to see how it can hold *some* appeal?

Imagine that that sense of tension, that longing, is actually the best part for some people. In fact, scientists have discovered that anticipation can actually be better than the real thing.


I can just hear some of you gasping now. WHY?! HOW? WHO actually feels that the anticipation of an orgasm is actually better than an orgasm?! Well, as it turns out, plenty of people feel that way!

For someone who’s not familiar with chastity or orgasm control play, it may seem like denial is the only approach. You may have visions of expensive cock cages as a necessity or requirement. But that’s just the beginning. 

Yes, you can focus entirely on denial. You can get a wall calendar or set up a digital calendar daily reminder so you can each see how many days of orgasms have been sacrificed. You can highlight the inability to orgasm, and the absolute control that the dominant holds over the submissive’s every intimate allowance (or lack thereof). 

But that’s exactly why I put chastity and orgasm control under the same umbrella. Chastity and denial are part of orgasm control play. It’s one dish on the buffet. One you might want to try giving a little taste.

One way you can explore denial is by starting with delay. Edging is a fun activity that can be a great addition to other kinky sessions. If orgasm is usually part of your kink adventures, then let yourself (or your partner) get right up to the edge of orgasm, and then stop. Then do it again, get yourself (or your partner) so close to cumming but then halt the pleasure right before it peaks. A few rounds of that will inspire some pretty enthusiastic begging, if you’re into that sort of thing (ahem, which I most definitely am).

I’m also a fan of scheduling a certain number of orgasms or certain timing of orgasms. Doling out three cums per week (or month if you’re feeling feisty) is a sexy way to ration pleasure in order to heighten that pleasure when it is allowed. This is another time when those digital calendar reminders can come in handy.

And remember, if you’re in a lifestyle relationship, just because one of you is in chastity or in denial, that doesn’t mean both of you have to miss out! There are lots of ways to keep one partner pleasured while the other enjoys enforced abstinence.

Whether you’re interested in orgasm management for short- or long-term time frames or whether you’re a lifestyle or professional player, I’ll share inspiring ways to play with this most intimate form of control.

Jan 032019


Join Kali for the Enough To Make You Blush: Online Class and explore your desire for taboo psychological play.

Kali is bringing her 5-star humiliation class to an online audience – including you!

Humiliation is a complex and varied fetish that offers many lifestyle players lots of options for embarrassing, degrading, or humiliating play. Humiliation isn’t just about smeared mascara and groveling under boots, it’s also about exploring vulnerability, trust, control, and sacrifice through absurdity, amusement, and consensual cruelty.

In this webinar recording you’ll learn:

  • What is erotic humiliation & what are the different levels of intensity?
  • How can you tell the difference between healthy play & abuse?
  • Can an action be humiliating if someone asks for it?
  • Why a desire for humiliation play doesn’t always “make sense”
  • Stereotypes and myths that might be hindering your play
  • How to bring up your desire for erotic humiliation play
  • The 10 Most Important Negotiation Questions (+ 6 bonus humiliation questions)
  • How to create shortcuts for headspace & communication
  • The huge range of erotically humiliating activities you can choose from!

This class is good for anyone with an interest in psychological kink, anywhere on the spectrum of experience or power –

  • Do you know you’re interested but haven’t figured it out beyond that?
  • Have you played with embarrassment or humiliation but want to improve your play?
  • Are you a ‘hardcore’ player ready to play deeper and/or wider?

Now you can watch this recording of Kali’s popular live webinar whenever you want! Purchase also includes a 24-page digital workbook download to guide you through the class and help you reach a new, deeper understanding of your own desires.

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Chastity Training and Orgasm Control can add whole new (and surprising!) dimension to your power exchange or sexual relationships. Chastity often strikes terror as well as exhilaration in the heart of the one being locked. As a keyholder, you can play with a mix of tease and denial, power and control, and some physical suffering thrown in for good measure! Orgasm Control can be used for short periods (hours and days) or long periods (weeks, months, and years.)
Whether you are using chastity to offer a demonstration of your submission, to prevent a bottom from getting off while they get you off, or to heighten sexual senses to bring both partners deeper into a more powerful D/s exchange. Making Chastity Training work for you is more possible than you think!

During this webinar Kali will share:

The #1 thing you need to remember for chastity play
Different types of chastity & orgasm control
Why people enjoy this kind of play
Different time frames – hours, days, weeks, months, years
Realistic ways to explore/introduce chastity in your relationship
Types of devices & pros & cons of each
Importance of hygiene & tips for healthy chastity
Ways to play with chastity short-term & long-term
Chastity games & practical training
and more!

Now you can watch this recording of Kali’s popular live webinar whenever you want! Purchase also includes a 23-page digital workbook download to guide you through the class and help you reach a new, deeper understanding of your own desires.

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Whether you’re a dominant, submissive, or switch….

The term “service” often conjures images of household drudgery. But there are many ways someone can be “of service” beyond household tasks, including fetish service, sexual service, and so much more.

For some kinksters, there’s nothing like scrubbing away at the floor or toilet while a stern dominant looks on in silent judgment, or ignores them from the next room. But if you think unwashed dishes and dirty laundry are the only options, this class will expand your service horizons no matter which side of the dynamic you’re on.

Many tops and dominants dream about having a well-behaved service submissive to call their very own. But finding one pre-trained can be rough and training away bad behaviors can be even rougher! Thankfully, there is a solution to make the process smoother for both sides.

Join Princess Kali as she shares tips and techniques for anyone in a service based relationship (or anyone who wants to be!)

During this Kali will share –

  • Common stereotypes – including; what service “looks like” (hint: it doesn’t just look submissive!)
  • Different types of service – domestic, sexual, masochistic, & more
  • Negotiating and Communicating both partners’ goals, needs, & limits within the service relationship
  • How to assess & present your service skills as a submissive
  • The dominant’s responsibilities of having a service submissive
  • Practical techniques for behavior training
  • The power of The Command
  • Ways for submissives to improve skills & service
  • And more!

Now you can watch this recording of Kali’s popular live webinar whenever you want! Purchase also includes a 22-page digital workbook download to guide you through the class and help you reach a new, deeper understanding of your own desires.

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Jan 252018

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