Disapproval and kink shaming

I try to look out for the signs of it in myself, because it’s something that naturally comes up. An involuntary response inside me that says….

“Oh My God, you do WHAT?!?!”

At the height of my kink exploration (I’m in a hibernation state at the moment) a lot of the play I did would be considered edge play. There’s no doubt that I’m an intense player and routinely did the kind of scenes that could make even experienced kinksters cringe. So when I have that flash of judgement for the way others play, I think it’s important that I take a look at where it’s coming from and whether there’s any legitimacy (insomuch as my criticism is legitimate.)

Recently, I saw some tweets from a Domme I’ve met and liked about doing forced intoxication sessions. That flash of judgement popped up and I thought,

“Oh fuck, that’s dangerous and is definitely not something they should be messing with.